What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

Uncharted territory

All animals have a territory — that is, the areas they’ve explored and the areas they haven’t…

Awareness of this “map” becomes a part of how their bodies physically respond from one situation to the next…

Unexplored territory is certainly more dangerous than home-base — where it’s easy to spot the differences…

And the differences being potential threats…

In unexplored territory, everything’s different, potentially everything is a threat…

I had the great pleasure of watching my friend’s cat while she was out of town recently and we decided to bring this little guy over to my place so we could hang while his mom was out of town…

And boy was he upset that first day…

He ran back and forth, all through the house, screaming and crying, looking for a familiar place to anchor too…

But to no avail…

Though, after a day of hiding under the bathtub he started to warm up to the place…

But here’s the thing…

Our environment, our explored and unexplored territories have a significant impact on our behavior…

But for human animals, most of our “territory” is other people…

And when you encounter other people’s behavior that you’ve not mastered interacting with productively…

You do what any animal would do when it’s threatened in unfamiliar territory…

Your blood gets pumping, your breathing rate increases, a wave of hormones begin rushing through your body…

You’re primed for action…

Your fight/flight response is in full swing…

Maybe you react to the danger and lash out…
Or you freeze and you can’t move…
Or you try to pretend like everything’s okay, so you’re not a threat…

It’s the mammalian way…

And if you find yourself struggling with a bit of unfamiliar territory, it can be helpful to find a guide.

Until next time,
Kevin