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Soda water and bitters
So I'm sitting at a bar in Detroit called Parks and Rec with my soda water and bitters in hand.
The guy next to me starts talking about how he wants to renovate this commercial building out in Grosse Pointe and turn it into an antique store for his wife so she can have “a new hobby”.
And my mind is kind of blown at that point.
Because 24 hours earlier I'm sitting with my friend Mara chatting about how us and all our other friends are all in this weird place. We'd all hit some version of the same wall when it comes to building a serious career or profession in our lives.
In an effort to reinvent ourselves and break through to the next level, Mara was getting her real estate license, and I was getting my builder's license.
Neither of us drank at the time, but we thought, you know what would be a good idea? Let's dress up nice, go to the fancy bars in the city, and just start meeting the kind of people who do have money to either buy new houses or hire someone to renovate them.
So there I am talking to some random stranger about my next hot contracting lead.
It worked. And long story short, the project was a bit over my head and I never ended up taking it on. But that's a story for another time. What matters is what I learned from the experience.
When you pick one thing and direct all of your attention to it, it starts to work. You can effectively slip in and out of these different realities by focusing all of your effort and attention onto one specific thing, whether it's new to you or not.
What I realized though, once it started working, was that this just wasn't my reality.
It felt like walking around in a borrowed suit from a guy three sizes bigger than me and just hoping no one noticed. But stepping into the wrong reality for a period of time and realizing it's not right isn't bad.
What's bad is staying stuck and never growing. What’s bad is dipping your toe in 37 different things and never really giving any of them a real shot.
You just never make progress in anything.
What actually works is stepping in fully, giving it 90 days, going all the way in, and then deciding whether or not you want to keep going.
One of the realities I did step fully into, and haven't looked back from, was writing daily emails.
Perhaps that’s something you’ve thought about too. Or maybe it’s something you already do, but would like to make it easier for yourself. And maybe you want a system to help you do that. If that’s the case, I put together a guide for exactly that.
And it’s available on the premium tier inside my community.
Here's the link:
Talk soon,
Kevin Hood